Bloggin' It Up!

Blogs are a great resource for stepmothers! Suddenly being placed in the role of taking care of a child is scary. Seven years ago when I entered the life of a five year old boy, I had no idea what to do. Do I try to be his friend? Do I discipline him when he needs it? Is it OK for me to bathe him? What if he thinks I am taking up his time and attention with his father? What if he likes his biological mother’s cooking better than mine? A stepmother can find so many answers to these questions via blogs. A variety of answers can be found and the stepmother can choose which ones work best for her and her family. I seem to have the hang of being a stepmother now after seven years, but I still have situations and experiences for which I find advice via mommy blogs. How do I comfort him when his biological mother has broken promises or chosen something over him? How do I react to his mother when she is m.i.a. for major aspects of his life and then waltzes in like she’s the world’s best mom? How do I react when people tell me, “your son looks just like you!”? Below is a list of some of my favorite stepmommy blogs:

http://wickedstepmom.blogspot.com/
This one is especially interesting because the author is now divorced from her stepchildren’s father but still very much a part of their lives. The divorce happened in the midst of her blog so you get to see her experiences before and after the divorce.
http://thestepmomstoolbox.com/stb-blog/
There is a wonderful poem on this site from a stepmother to a biological mother. This is very helpful when I have feelings of wanting to rip my son’s biological mother’s hair out! Her ‘Savvy Stepmom’ pieces also give guidance for being the best stepmom you can be.
http://www.steptalk.org/node/142
This one has a lot of reader action on it. It’s not just recounts the author’s experiences. There are a lot of interesting situations, questions, and answers posted there by, from, and for stepmoms.