Many parents treat their children like possessions. When you possess or own something, it belongs to you. It is not its own. You control every aspect of the item. You can do with it what you want, treat it how you want, share it as you see fit, or keep it all to yourself. Most biological mothers that I know treat their children just like this. I am not saying this is either good or bad, but it is just the way it is. It could be a good thing in that the mother is taking complete responsibility for her child’s well-being. It could be a bad thing in that the mother looks at the child as an object instead of a person with his or her own wants and needs. Possession definitely should not be confused with love. Just because a parent possesses and/or takes care of a child does not mean there is love there. Some people possess their children just to avoid paying child support, to use as tax write-offs, or to use as servants. Fortunately stepparents do not have as much tendency or temptation to possess their stepchildren. No matter how close the stepparent and stepchild are, the biological parent still gets the final say-so in all things concerning the child. My stepson lives with us full time so in our household I (along with my husband) get the final say-so in what goes on pertaining to him. But major life situations and what he does when he is with his mother I do not have absolute control of. I can love him, take care of him, teach him, and guide him, but I could never possess him.
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